Good luck with your search
It is so hard to find a boat that meets requirements that I have designed and fitted out my last 2 myself. It is also why several other Members have boats built bespoke. But both take time and patience.
12 years on still very Happy with Alfresco [an offshore Pro Charter 30]. We have diesel power for efficiency and a top speed of over 30 knots, so no problem towing toys.
The boat will be a compromise so take your time choosing and get as close as possible within budget.
Like other I would suggest that if you want to take ladies and kids onboard you should not discount beds, toilet and galley
They are the things that make my boat so enjoyable to be on for long trips out and multiple day trips away. Try telling your Mrs to invest serious money then have to P in a bucket. LOL
Charlie